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I Don’t Understand Lent…and I Think That’s a Good Thing

February 22, 2012 · Chuck

I remember the first time I ever heard of the season of Lent.  I was a Sr. in high school and had been going to church for just a few months.  Less than a month before, I think, was when I accepted Christ, so much of what I was learning was new to me.

I wasn’t really aware of lent until it was over that year.  My pastor had talked about giving up soda during lent, which really didn’t mean anything to me because I didn’t know what Lent was.  On Easter Sunday he brought a can of Coke with him and drank it at some point during the service.  For a few years after that I knew Lent as a time to give up something we liked because Easter was coming.

As my understanding of Lent grew, I eventually began to associate it with the Passion, crucifixion and resurrection.  However, for me it was still mostly a time of self-sacrifice.  I mean self-sacrifice in the most selfish sense, too.  My friends and I would compete to see who could go the longest without soda, or internet time, or something else that was deemed an appropriately difficult sacrifice.  For a couple of years I was giving up food and water from 9:00am to sundown.  One year I gave up meat (my wife wasn’t a big fan of that!)

If I wasn’t using Lent for bragging rights, I was using it to lose weight.  I was giving up pop mostly because I knew it wasn’t good for me and I could stand to lose a few pounds. How’s that for really getting into the spirit??

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What We Can Learn From Penn State

November 10, 2011 · Chuck

I’ve been pretty easily distracted over the last few days.  I’ve caught myself changing the channel to ESPN or going to ESPN.com to check for updates on the Penn State scandal that’s happening (if you haven’t followed it, you can here.)

As I’ve watched the coverage and read the articles and police reports I have noticed myself slowly, steadily becoming more and more uneasy about the whole situation.  First there is the horror of child molestation, something that pains me more than ever now that I am a father.  Then there is the response by the university and the officials/staff who knew about it.  The “coverup”, or lack of an appropriate response from the people who had the obligation and ability to prevent this from continuing upsets me.  I think it upsets me because it reveals a truth about Penn State that, if we are truly honest with ourselves, we must admit we share.

The institution trumps people.

This is mostly conjecture, but my guess is that Penn State did the bare minimum to address the problem because they didn’t want to cause a scandal that would negatively impact the football program and the university.  In their mind it was probably better to “take care of it” in house and sweep it under the rug instead of doing the right thing and attacking the situation head-on.

The result of that approach bothers me.  The situation should have been about the victims, and not about Penn State or the football program, but it was reversed.  As a result, many young children had their innocence and childhood taken from them.  Maybe I’m being a bit dramatic there, but I’m a father of two girls little girls and it hits close to home .  I’ll be the first to say I’m not terribly objective.

It’s so easy to condemn Penn State and their administration for their initial response.  I wonder though, if the church is all that different.

Let me be clear: I’m not saying most churches will intentionally cover up an abuse scandal like this.

What I am saying is this: I think churches are sometimes just as guilty of placing their institutions ahead of their purpose.  In a very basic sense, we are all about people.  It is our job to care for them and reach out to them with the Word of Life.  Everything else is secondary.  The church does not exist to perpetuate itself.  Unfortunately, I have seen evidence of that mindset in pretty much every church I’ve ever been in.

We stop giving money to missions when our budget is tight, but do not cut the fellowship donut and coffee time budget.

We shut out the people in our own neighborhood because they are different.

We complain about the squirrelly kids who are loud and obnoxious and *gasp!* run in the church.

We shut the doors of the sanctuary once worship has started and prevent late-comes from entering, or completely bar small children from being in worship with adults.

The list goes on, and I’m sure you could add your own examples, but the point is this.  We are likely just a guilty as protecting an institution over doing what’s best for the people we serve.

Penn State’s biggest failure was not dealing with this and preventing the abuse from continuing.  Their primary concern was to protect themselves, not the ones who need to be protected.  When we place instituions over people we have made the same failure.  Sure, most of us won’t be dealing with sex scandals, but we all are dealing with matters of eternity.  That, my friends, is far more significant than the institution of the church!

Seeing Potential

October 13, 2011 · Chuck

When it comes to teenagers and college students, I am pretty good at seeing through the facade they put up.  I have yet to meet a person who doesn’t put up some sort of a front so people will see them differently.  I believe it’s something of a survival technique for people.

I used to pride myself on being able to see through them and it has been a very useful skill to have in many situations.  On a number of occasions I have called a student out on faking something based on what my “crap detector” was telling me.  It’s really helpful to be able to tell when a student wants to be on the leadership team because he likes to be in control rather than be a servant leader.  For a long time I thought this was the greatest tool I had in my ministry utility belt.

Not anymore.

Over the last few years I’m finding that it’s good to see students for who they really are, but it’s infinitely greater to see students for who they CAN BE.

When I look at a student and only see them as they are now I am only focusing on the present and assuming that they will stay the same.  I am discounting the grace of God that works in their lives to change them and bring them closer to perfection.

By only looking at who they are I am choosing to ignore the very person I am trying to connect them with.  I am ignoring that Jesus saw potential in all of his disciples and invested in them.  His focus on their potential put their failures and shortcomings in perspective that allowed him to continue to invest in them.

This change in my attitude has been subtle for me and monumental for the students I work with.  When I talk with them or even discipline them, it’s all in the context of who they have the potential to be.  They know I believe in them and that I want them to succeed.

They desperately want someone to believe in them and their desire to do great things.  If we can focus on who they can become rather than who they are now, I think we can really make a huge impact in the lives of the students we serve.

Welcome, Payton Charlotte!

May 31, 2011 · Chuck

I probably should have posted this a few days ago considering she’s been here almost a week, but it’s been crazy.  Plus, this is my blog, and not yours, so deal with it! :)

Payton Charlotte was born at 2:28pm on Wednesday, May 25th.  She weighed 7 pounds 14 ounces and was 21″ long and is really cute!  It’s almost surreal that she’s really here.  We’ve been waiting for her for so long that strange to actually have her here with us.

Her big sister is doing surprisingly well with her.  I was worried about the shift of focus from her to Payton, but she’s really into being a big sister.  She’s constantly covering her with blankets (but she’s finally getting that you can’t cover her face) and trying to give her a pacifier.  She’s really jumped into the big sister/caretaker role with both feet.

Things are never going to be the same!  And I’m totally ok with that!

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Are Youth Workers Drug Dealers?

May 16, 2011 · Chuck

I don’t know a lot about drugs.  Other than prescriptions and over the counter stuff, I’ve never used them.  In ministry I’ve come across a few people who have struggled with addiction and they have all pretty much said the same thing about their addiction: it was all about manufacturing a “high” that makes them feel alive/better/happy.  An addict’s life begins to revolve around that high they experience.  Everything they do is just to get them by until they get their next fix.

When I look at the current state of youth ministry (at least in America) it seems to be all about manufacturing a spiritual high for our youth.  In a sense we are spiritual drug dealers.  I can’t even begin to recall how many kids I have worked with or have encountered who are relying on on “mountaintop experiences” to get them along in their faith.  As youth workers, we tend to play into that and program our ministries to create those experiences.

For some, this will work fine.  Those kids who are really working on owning their faith will truly benefit from the recharge that comes from those events.  On the other hand, kids who are relying on just these kinds of events are going to end up worse off than before. Read More →

Marked: Leadership Camp

April 28, 2011 · Chuck

My brain has been on a student leadership kick lately.  Because of that, I thought I would share about a project I’m a part of that really excites me: Marked: Leadership Camp.

The original idea came out of a long car ride down to southern Illinois.  A few of my friends and I were talking about the seemingly universal struggle of getting students involved in leadership in the local church and the Conference-level ministries.  In an amazing turn of events, instead of complaining about the current situation, we started working on a solution, and out of that discussion came the idea for a leadership development camp.

Marked is a week-long leadership academy for high school students designed to take leadership students and build on their God-given strengths and equip them for leadership in the local church.  We focus on four things we feel are especially important for leaders to have  solid grasp on: spiritual disciplines, biblical leadership characteristics, personal strengths/gifts, and working in a team.

I am so excited about what this ministry is doing in the lives of those who attend.  Seeing what God is doing in their life year after year I can’t help but be filled with hope.  It’s a great ministry, and if you have some kids who need to take the next step in leadership, then this is the camp for them.

Here is a short video with some highlights of last year’s camp:

Identifying Student Leaders

April 19, 2011 · Chuck

One of the things I spend a lot of time on is student leadership.  I believe that ministries will eventually fold and lose their effectiveness if they do not put students into leadership positions.

One of the trickiest parts of putting students into leadership is the very first step: identification.  If you’ve spent even a short amount of time in youth ministry you know that it can be difficult to discern whether or not a student really “gets it” and it taking ownership of their faith or if they are just really good at going through the motions.

I don’t expect perfection in my student leaders.  I have found over time that looking for specific behaviors in students is not a good way to evaluate a student’s potential.  That being said, I do have a few characteristics/attitudes I look for when I recruit student leaders.  Here are a few of them:

They are motivated:

Quality student leaders tend to have some sort of fire inside them.  They will take initiative to get things done, occasionally without being asked.  I’ve noticed this motivation is usually focused around a particular “area” of ministry (small groups, events, evangelism, etc).  Sometimes the trick is to find what they are motivated about and turn them loose. Read More →

My Bucket List

April 1, 2011 · Chuck

I love the movie “The Bucket List.”  It was a great movie that was uplifting, tragic, and hilarious all in one package.  At the same time I hate it because it inspired a flood of crappy content that jumped on the “What would you do if you only had a few months to live?” bandwagon.  But now I’m jumping on the bandwagon so it’s all ok now! :)

That I am leaving Grace Church has been made official and announcements have been made to my kids, church leadership, and eventually the church body.  I’ve known about it far longer than the kids have, but the reality of it becoming public made it much more “real.”  I am essentially living in the end times of my ministry.

One of the things I have assigned myself is to create an exit strategy.  I want to make sure the youth ministry is prepared for my departure and the arrival of the next DYM.  So my mind has been flooded with all of the minute details of the ministry and making sure I get as much of it as I can on paper so others will know what goes/went on in the youth ministry.

Another part of this exit strategy for me is a renewed sense of urgency in my teaching.  Knowing I only have a few months left has really caused me to think hard about what I want the kids to hear.  Basically I’m creating my “Teaching Bucket List.”  So far, here is what I have on it:

  • Salvation (yes, it’s a huge topic, but I want to make sure these kids understand what it means to be saved)
  • The Cost of Discipleship (another huge topic, but one that is often ignored)
  • Basic Theology

That’s pretty much it.  It’s a short list, but it’s one that really can’t ever be completely covered.  I might post some more about this at a later time, because this process stirred up some thoughts/observations in me.

So, for those of you in youth ministry (or with opinions in general): What would you put on your ministry bucket list?

Philosophy of Ministry 1.5

March 28, 2011 · Chuck

A while back I posted a monster of a document I called my Philosophy of Ministry.  In reality it was a gigantic brain-dump that was part of a college project I had to do back in the day.  I didn’t realize until I put it out here just how much there was to that thing, and most of it mediocre at best!  If nothing else, it lit a fire under me to finally revamp the thing and make it manageable.

So here is my Philosophy of Ministry 1.5.  It’s not really a complete document.  But it does a much better job of concisely summing up how I approach ministry.  It’s been especially helpful for me to work through this given I’m in the process of transitioning into a new ministry.  Some day it will be a full revision…but as we know, youth ministry is an ever-changing world, so this will never really be “complete.”

Philosophy of Ministry 1.5

It’s Official

March 28, 2011 · Chuck

On Friday I met with my Sr. Pastor and Staff-Parish Relations Committee and we finalized some details that were in the works.  As of August 31st, if not sooner, I will no longer be the Director of Youth Ministries at Grace Church.  It doesn’t come as a surprise, as I have been looking for a new position for a few months now.  The church and I finally came to a realization that it was time to part ways.

At first, we thought there would not be enough money in the budget to support a youth staff person through 2011.  Now it looks like the money is there, but I believe God has been leading Grace and I in different directions.

My goal will actually to be gone well before August 31st, as that will give both me and the next youth staff person here at Grace Church.  That will allow me to settle in to a new church before the school year starts.

I would appreciate your prayers as I search for a new church and for the ministry here at Grace Church that the transition would go as smoothly as possible.

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